Chivalry

Posted by Ling on November 3, 2009

Sometimes, I get really annoyed with girls.  Girls who manipulate guys – stupid guys.  These girls know fine well that these boys will do anything and everything for them, but these girls will not be clear about where their friendship/relationship stands.  And then, the girl will use and abuse the stupid guy till she finds a boyfriend and then, the stupid guy will be useless and lonely again. 
Wake up stupid guys!!

On the other hand, I also get annoyed with guys.  Non-committal guys who date girls – stupid girls.  These guys  will date stupid girls who fall for their “I will always love you” line, but deep down inside, this guy knows fine well, he could never be with this stupid girl forever, but says these stupid corny cheesy lines because stupid girls will fall for it hook, line and sinker.  These guys will run at the mention of the C-word = Commitment.
Wake up stupid girls!!

I like to give the “I am a manhater, not a maneater” vibe, but secretly, I like guys.  Hanging out with guys is usually more fun than hanging out with girls because guys tend to be more laid-back and care-free.

I also think guys like hanging out with me too because (in my head) I am such a fun-loving girl…BUT…

I have come to realise that there are some guys who like to hang out with me because they have a hidden agenda!!!
Yes, they do!!

At first, they will be very nice and do all these nice things for you.

But when you make it LOUD & CLEAR that you’re just not that into him – e.g. “I ONLY like you as a friend; I will never ever fancy you; You’re like a brother to me…”, the guy will react in either one of these ways :-

1. Still treat you as nice – either in hope, that they will change your heart and win you over (it’s the ultimate “player” challenge!) or that they are genuinely a really nice guy (rare!)
2. Stop doing all the nice things because it will not benefit them in the end so they don’t want to waste more time and effort on you (very common – avoid these guys at all costs!)

I encounter a lot of the number 2′s (PUN INTENDED!) and sadly, I have lost a lot of guy friends because of this.

Two days ago, I was in church and the sermon was about Relationships and I was reminded of this word – chivalry.

Chivalry is defined as respectful attention especially towards women

I thought this word was near extinction, but guess what???

Since I started travelling in mid-July, I met and hung around with some nasty guys (especially you know who) but then, I must admit I have met some chivalrous guys!!!  Hallelujah!  They exist!!!

I present to you “The Chivalrous Single Guys” list :-

• Mr MM – The guy who sent me a Facebook message, out of the blue, and described me as “stunning” even though when we spent time together, I had the swollen eye !!
  Mr MM is chivalrous because he sees the beauty deep within.

• Mr Pistol – The guy who won’t “allow” me to walk home by myself after a night out even though I live 5 minutes walk away and insists on driving me home.
  Mr Pistol is chivalrous because of his caring nature

• Mr Egg – The guy who initiates saying grace every time we eat together.
  Mr Egg is chivalrous because he respects God.

• Mr Dorky – The guy who had a morning coffee waiting for me even though I already told him that I was going to be late meeting him AND he opened car doors (we only got introduced the day before).
  Mr Dorky is chivalrous because of his gentlemanly nature.

• Mr Heinz – The guy who has offered me unlimited Diet Coke (my favourite soft drink…shh!! It’s really bad for your teeth!!).
  Mr Heinz is chivalrous because of his generosity.

AND I also present to you “The Non-Single Chivalrous Guys” list :-

• Mr KAD – The guy who carried my suitcase everywhere (as well as his own backpack) when we went on a 24-hour trip together.
  Mr KAD is chivalrous because of his kind nature.

• Mr XY – The guy who came over to help me move into my new place and helped to re-arrange the furniture.
  Mr XY is chivalrous because of his helpful nature.

I hope I will meet more chivalrous guys and add more to the lists!!!

(Obviously I know loads of chivalrous guys back in the UK and I haven’t forgotten about them.)

In conclusion :  Chivalry FTW!!!

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