Get Over It
Posted by Ling on September 29, 2009
I have been travelling for over ten weeks now and I’ve met a number of interesting people, hung out with old friends and made new friends.
I connected with a new friend – Mr KAD (read about him here). Why? Because we talked about nitty-gritty stuff that people generally avoid.
The conversation went something along the lines of this :-
Mr KAD : So, what’s the most expensive gift you have received from a guy?
Me : Engagement ring
(People always change the subject when they find out I was once engaged and although, they are curious, they don’t pursue the subject. I actually don’t mind talking about it because at least, it shows that I have had an existent love life! Anyway, in this case, I changed the subject but Mr KAD brought it back up 10 minutes later…)
KAD : So you were engaged? What happened?
Me : blah, blah, blah
(it’s now just a 2 minute spiel because I can’t remember much but I know it was painful)
Mr KAD : So are you over him?
(See! I LIKE this straight-to-the-point bluntness!! Why beat around the bush?? LOVE IT!)
Me : Hell, YEAH!
(Okay, I didn’t really say that…I said “yes”…but it sounds better if I pretended I said it in a fake American accent…LOL)
I just love bluntness. What’s the point of small mish-mash talk? Get to the deep stuff that really matters!!
Anyway, you know what the most annoying thing is though??
Although I am totally over this failed relationship, some of my friends aren’t!
I have been told by two brides AFTER THEIR WEDDING, that I could have been a bridesmaid but they didn’t know if I could cope!!
Like seriously, WTF is that about??
I LOVE WEDDINGS! I am ALWAYS happy to see people getting married and being in love.
What did they think I was gonna do? Break down and cry and shoot the groom just because poor little me didn’t get to walk down the aisle and get married??? PUH-LEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hello???
What annoys me off even more is….the fact they tell me AFTER the wedding! What is the point? Does it make me wanna thank them for saving me from wedding meltdown? HARDLY! Just gets me angry because it means that they don’t really know me at all! They couldn’t have discussed it with me prior to the wedding??? Don’t tell me afterwards!!!
GOSH, when will this broken engagement crap stop haunting me???
I also missed out on going to the ex-fiance’s sister’s wedding recently!
I was invited and then I wasn’t. I was raging! WTF? We’re grown-up people here!!! Can’t we be civilised to each other?
But it made ME look bad! EVERYONE was going and EVERYONE was invited.
People : Are you going to the wedding?
Me : No
People look at me like I’m the bitter ex-jilted-fiancee…aww, poor girl, can’t cope with going to the wedding…blah blah blah…
(I could have explained why..sometimes I really wanted to…but then, I didn’t because I didn’t want to cause a scene or start some malicious rumours just before their wedding…see, I am CONSIDERATE that way!!)
Anyway, yeah, people get over it!
In conclusion : Invite me to your weddings! Let me be the bridesmaid! Let me catch the bouquet!
yvonne said,
invite me too!! i love weddings
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Cat said,
yeh i definitely miss the talking deep & honestly thing me & u had…
come back quick Ding A Ling!
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joe blessing said,
You’re better than me. I won’t go to a wedding, let alone one from the family. I miss them all desperately, but if i see my ex with her new whomever, I’ll just flip out.
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Ling Tung Reply:
April 29th, 2010 at 7:11 pm
awww…I hope you’re getting to a better place now and moving on…
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