How To Deal With Being A Third Wheel
Posted by Ling on May 25, 2010
Being a third wheel is not exactly fun. I know because I have been a third wheel on numerous occasions. It is worse especially when the couple do not take your feelings into consideration and make you feel extremely uncomfortable with their lovey-doveyness which only highlights the fact that you are single. Personally, I think there is more to life than being attached and that everyone should enjoy their singlehood while they still have it. I remember there was one time when I was being a third wheel and my coupled-up friends just totally ignored the fact I was there and had their private in-jokes and kissing and stuff. It was so inappropriate. But anyway, I decided then and there that when I was coupled up that I would always consider the feelings of others, i.e. refrain from public displays of affection, etc.
Obviously, not all couple are considerate of their third wheel. So here are some tips on how to deal with being a third wheel :-
1. Don’t be a third wheel! Don’t go to the movies / dinner / outing if you know in advance that you are going to be a third wheel. Just find something else to do.
2. If you cannot get out of that movie / dinner / outing invite, then add another wheel! Bring another friend with you.
3. You are a third wheel and the couple you are with keep stroking each other’s hair and winking at each other. Two can play at that game! Just do the same thing to the person you are the same sex with. If you are a girl, do what the guy does to the girl. If you are a guy, do what the girl does to the guy. Because if you do this to the person in the opposite sex, it aint gonna go down well with their other half!!
4. You are a third wheel and everything is going okay until the couple start kissing. Gross, right? Well, don’t say “Gross, get a room guys!” because for some bizarre reason, this turns them on and they start getting into it! Instead, try this line, “Oh yeah, that’s sexy! Mm…! It’s getting me all turned on!” That should stop them (unless they are kinky!) because they will think it is funny or they will think YOU are gross!
5. You are a third wheel and suddenly, the couple start fighting. Do not get sucked into the fight. Do not take sides. Do not cough nervously and try and find excuses to walk away. Enjoy the moment! Yeah, you may be single and yeah, you may be a third wheel, but hey there is nothing wrong with that. Be glad that you don’t have such childish fights. Yeah, just savour the moment and thank God that you are still single. The couple will soon stop bickering when they notice that you are watching them with this weird but satisfying smirk on your face.
Being a third wheel does not have to be awkward nor uncomfortable if the couple are considerate. However, if the couple are inconsiderate, just stay cool. Don’t highlight the fact that you are a third wheel. Enjoy sitting in between them at the movies. Enjoy interrupting their make-out session. Make them feel awkward.
Does anyone else have any other tips on how to deal with being a third wheel?
Inessa said,
I was going to comment this post last week but I forgot! hahaha but yeah was gonna say that I was out with my bf and one of his friends for lunch. I was all couplish mode! when I realised what I was doing I remembered your post and stopped doing it.. hahah… But when I stopped he pulled me closer
faiiiiil
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Melody said,
Ah. I really really really try hard not to be an inconsiderate couple when we have a third wheel around >_< ! But when that person third wheeling is third wheeling on purpose (a LOT of my friends do this just to annoy us for no reason) ..I start making it awkward xD
..although a lot of those friends aren't affected.
(ie. me&bf are hugging .. friend hugs my bf and pushes me away ;A;)
but all in all ..I try not to be a mean couple xD
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Ling Tung Reply:
June 5th, 2010 at 9:50 pm
haha…sometimes really difficult when u’ve just fallen in love and ur happy…
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milky55 said,
but sometimes being too considerate can backfire! I.e bf and I wants to watch a film a third wheeler would say me too! let’s go together! or third wheeler “what r u two up to? mind if I join you for dinner?”
*sigh*
yeah I get that a lot, everyone including family are just too comfortable around us and yeah we’re too nice to say no u can’t
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Ling Tung Reply:
October 21st, 2010 at 12:42 am
Maybe you should put your foot down and say No. Or even, just say that you and bf want alone time. Actually, I’m giving all this advice but I am very bad at doing that too haha…never get enough alone time with the other half…sigh!
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