The Ex Factor
Posted by Ling on September 1, 2008
I know a guy. He told me that he wouldn’t date until he found one special girl. And this one girlfriend would be his only girlfriend because then she would become his wife. I was a bit cynical about this…ahem…being an expert in failed relationships and all…haha…
In an ideal world, I only wanted to date one guy and I thought I was selective and careful in picking the right guy, but look where it’s got me. Anyway, this guy recently got attached and it will be interesting to see if he will indeed marry this girl. (EDIT : it didn’t last the distance because the guy bailed on the girl)
I have this weird habit of thinking about and relating and comparing things – it’s just this weird thing I do in my head. I like to relate things to each other; find a common theme…it’s quite hard to explain…but I think it’s fun and it makes me witty when I write it in my diary…let me give you an example…
Last week, I had a CR@P week. It was CR@P, not just because I was depressed about stuff, but also because CR@P stuff happened. I was desperate for the toilet and went to this public toilet which had a floating CR@P, i.e. turd. Also, one of my patients CR@PPED all over the toilet seat as she had bad diarrhoea but ran out of toilet paper!!!
You see, the common theme here is CR@P.
Anyway, I stumbled upon this the other day - the ex-boyfriends.
Ex-Boyfriend # 1 – he is married with 2 kids
Ex-Boyfriend #2 – he is engaged
Ex-Boyfriend #3 – he is in a relationship
Ex-Boyfriend #4 – he is single (but for how much longer?)
The differences in their relationship statuses amused me for a while.
I like to see if there is a trend or pattern forming so I did some more thinking and came up with this :-
Ex-Boyfriend #1 – younger than me and Christian
Ex-Boyfriend #2 – older than me and non-Christian
Ex-Boyfriend #3 – older than me and non-Christian (at the time)
Ex-Boyfriend #4 – younger than me and Christian
Interesting or what?
I have yet to date an older, Christian guy.
Being older and wiser in my choices, my next boyfriend would have to be Christian. And they most likely will be younger than me; simply because I find them less boring and more fun.
Anonymous said,
my my lingy, i get an, no, TWO e-mails about you suffering.
The fact is, there IS no trend or theme in your type of relationship, it’s your circle – look at church, you are surrounded with young single and horney boys alot of the time and most of your friends around your age and older are in relationships etc. YOU need to stop letting people chase you and do something about it yourself – it’s not wrong for a girl to chase boys.
You shouldn’t descriminate on age, looks or gender (the world is becoming more open these days) judging a book by it’s cover is lesson everyone rants on about and all those gossip magazines – they teach you nufin.
My advice to you is that you like what you like, try something different and you might like it – you might not – but remember, you need to sift through the CRAP before you find diamons AND you can’t love someone untill you know that person, so give them a chance and who knows!
You will find the right person, everything takes time.. sometimes it takes a lot of time… just be more open minded.
i’ll beat you up next time i see you, lots of friend love x
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siu4s_musikland said,
have you ever thought of settling being single forever?
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