The Honeymoon Pot

By Ling

If you have been directed here for details on how to pay towards our Honeymoon Pot, then I’m sorry but I was advised to remove my bank details from my website…(so e-mail me and I will send you details again!)

The Honeymoon Pot will be spent in either London, Paris or Rome.  Thank you.

If you are a blog fan, read on…

When guests attend a wedding, they usually buy a wedding gift to bless the newlyweds.  The majority of couples have a gift registry list and this information is included in the wedding invitations – it is even easier today with online shopping.

Now, the idea of having a gift registry list is highly appealing to me.  It’s not because I get to go shopping (I HATE shopping).  It’s not because I get to choose whatever I want.  It’s because I get to walk around the store with a handheld device which scans barcodes and stores this information and forms your gift registry list.  Isn’t that cool?  (Or am I just sad?  HAHA!)

However, as our Scottish wedding is in 2 weeks, this is clearly not going to work for Mr Dorky and I because we do not even have our own address.  We have no idea where we will be living once we go back to Australia at the end of August.  Therefore, we have no idea what we will need for our new abode.  And so, we never set up a gift registry list for the wedding.

But at the same time, I did not want people to buy us gifts in Scotland which we could not take back to Australia.  For example, how would we take back a vacuum cleaner.

What we really wanted was money.  However, according to wedding etiquette, it is rude to ask for money.

I figured it was better to be honest so I included this at the end of our wedding invitations :-

If you would like to bless us with a wedding gift, we would greatly appreciate money towards our Honeymoon Pot as boxed gifts would be too difficult to take back to Australia.  Thank you.

Points to note include :-

- “If” – meaning it is up to you; it is your choice; no-one is forcing you
- “money towards our Honeymoon Pot” – you know what the money is going to be spent on (although I do want an iPhone 4…)
- “boxed gifts would be too difficult to take back to Australia” – being honest here; it’s not as if we don’t want a vacuum cleaner, but it’s because we can’t take it back with us

That was not tacky right?  It was just plain honesty.  Some people clearly want money, but they put it in a nicer way by masking it in a poem (usually found by googling) :-

Our friends who got married recently had this in their invitation :-

If you were thinking of giving a gift,
To help us on our way.
A gift of cash towards our house,
Would really make our day.
However, if you prefer to purchase a gift,
Feel free to surprise us in your own way.

It is a sweet poem, but at the same time, the last 2 lines suggest that it’s okay to still buy any gift.

And there’s also this :-

Love the joy of choosing gifts?
And wrapping the chosen captive?
If thoughts elude in this regard… money is attractive!

What the…?  We’re not all English scholars!!  Sorry, but that poem would just put me off and I probably would not even get the newlyweds a present just because they subjected my eyes to such a badly written poem!!

At the end of the day, if your friends are offended by your request for money instead of gifts, then they’re not really your friends are they?!

2 Comments on The Honeymoon Pot

  1. Kim
    August 13, 2010 at 4:12 pm (4 years ago)

    I am also an expat (Brit girl moved to Oz) and I am creating a blog about the Australian visa process.I am writing articles to help others who are looking to move to Australia.If you would like to submit a story to my blog I would love to hear about your experience of the Australian visa process, especially if it can help others. I would love to hear about whether you did it yourself or if you used a Migration Agent to help you, and what problems or pit-falls (if any) you experienced.
    Thanks a lot and I love your blog.
    Australian Visa Advice


  2. Melody
    August 1, 2010 at 1:53 am (4 years ago)

    I think I received an invitation once that stated something about money towards their new life together? Or something like that. I forgot. :|

    But yeah, I don’t think its rude(?) And your statement was worded quite well so I’m sure people won’t be offended xD I mean – it’s easier to give money isn’t it? ….Rather than having to look for a present xD


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