Thinking About Previous Relationships

By Ling

Procrastinating is one of my favourite pastimes especially when I have something else to do, i.e. wedding planning.  Anyway, for the last week, I have been thinking about the previous relationships I have been in.  I think I have been in 4-5 relationships – but hey, who’s counting?  I think it was important for me to look back and be glad that I was no longer in that relationship.  I was happy that I had made peace with all of them.  Well, what I mean by that is, when the relationship ended, I offered my friendship – some took up the offer and some did not.  That was quite difficult for me to overcome because they had shared an important part in my life but then, after the relationship ended, the friendship had gone too.

Is it really that hard to maintain friendship with your exes?
Or is it because you do not want anything which may hinder or damage the new relationship you are in?

Yes, I am a bit strange.  I still wanted to be friends with the ex who beat me up.  I still wanted to be friends with the ex who dumped me for an older woman.  I still wanted to be friends with the ex who… (okay, let’s not drag up history!)

Sometimes, I wish I never met some of these guys…but then if I hadn’t, I wouldn’t be where I am now!

So, I was reading someone’s blog and they said that they had facebook stalked their previous exes.  So what did I do?  I did the same thing.  Haha.

However, when I stumbled upon a photo of the ex with their current girlfriend/fiancee/wife, I did NOT think :-

1.  Gosh, she’s fat and ugly!  I am so much prettier than her!
2.  Dammit, he’s so hot.  I miss him.
3.  I hate his guts!  Ugh.  His face is repulsive.

Instead, I thought, “Aww.  They look great together.  I am so happy for them.” Seriously, I did.

Therefore, in conclusion, I hope that when one of my exes (or all the guys who have unsuccesfully pursued me – there is LONG list of them – JOKE!) facebook stalks me or reads this blog (you may be surprised how many of them read this!), they will also be happy for me and Mr Dorky’s forthcoming nuptials.

This sounds cheesy but I have a song dedicated to my previous ex-boyfriends, flings, crushes…(yes, Brad Pitt!)…

2 Comments on Thinking About Previous Relationships

  1. Melody
    June 10, 2010 at 12:54 am (4 years ago)

    Ohhhh. Hmm I tend to think about my previous boyfriends sometimes too .. although I am still very much in contact with all of them. Sort of. Two of them going to my university (with one of them doing the same units/subjects as me) The most previous one is currently in a different state. Which is the main reason why we broke up :/ I guess I like to facebook stalk him a lot – especially after he deleted me off facebook! But …I guess I’m really glad that they were all in my life.

    If it weren’t for them, I wouldn’t be who I am today. Right? :D It’s good to remember!

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