Why I Dated An A$$hole

By Ling

I was talking to one of my close girlfriends recently and somehow, we stumbled upon the subject of ex-boyfriends.  Ex-who?  Yeah, right, if only they could be so easily erased right?!  She said something about one of them which came as a shock.

“Ling, I cannot believe you dated him.  He was such an a$$hole!”

Huh?  Where did that come from?  I tried to think back and admittedly, I came up with some nasty memories of that “a$$hole”.  I thought of the time he slapped me in the face because I didn’t do his sister’s dishes – which I had not even used!  I thought of the time when he ordered me out of my bed on the day after my surgery – which had me off work for 3 months because of post-surgery complications – he didn’t care when I told him I was in excruciating pain.  And then I stopped digging out these buried bad memories and I turned and said to my girlfriend,

“Yes, you’re right!  He was an a$$hole!  What was I thinking?”

And today, it came to me!  Yes, revelation!  I knew what I was thinking!

I saw all the danger signs but I still continued this failing relationship.  I dated an a$$hole because :-

1.  Love is blind.  Simple, ’nuff said!

2.  Surely, love can conquer all?!  Yeah, right!  I blame all those stupid lovey dovey movies which impress upon a stupid idea of love when in reality, it’s not like that!

3.  Compared to my previous relationship with an even-more-abusive ex-boyfriend (yes, I dated a lot of a$$hole$ in my time), this relationship was better – but better is not enough!!!!!

4.  I had invested a lot of time, sweat and tears into this relationship so it better damn well work! – WRONG thinking!!!

5.  I wanted to prove people wrong – yes, the people who had advised AGAINST dating him in the first place!

6.  (This is a terrible thing to admit but) I was thinking of the money – he came from a rich family background plus he was in a professional career which would mean that I would have become an upper class housewife…

Well, what can I say?  I was a love fool!!

Are you going through similar experiences (like I mentioned above) in your relationship?

If you find yourself in a relationship where something’s just not quite right, please get out now!  Don’t make the same mistake I did!

Do not feel obliged to stay in a rocky relationship because one day, it’ll bite you in the bum!

If you’ve just been dumped but you feel wronged and you cannot understand why because you did everything right, please stop dwelling on him/her.  You’re wasting your time.

Hear this from me : “You deserve better!”

Just some friendly dating advice from your favourite relationship guru…

Important points to note :

  • Just because a guy was an a$$hole to his previous girlfriend, it does not mean that he will be an a$$hole to his next girlfriend.  Everyone deserves a second chance.
  • This blog post is not hating on men but also applies in vice versa mode.  That is, if you’re a guy and you dated a b!tch.

Any thoughts?

8 Comments on Why I Dated An A$$hole

  1. Squeeze The Pug
    April 19, 2011 at 3:24 am (3 years ago)

    LOL. I like the title of the post. It’s interesting to see the Dollar signs in the word ASS

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    Ling Tung Reply:

    @Squeeze The Pug, LOL, thanks. He had money coming out of his ass but it didn’t stop him being an a-hole :P

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  2. Melody
    December 23, 2010 at 2:31 pm (3 years ago)

    YOUR EX SOUNDS LIKE A REAL DOUCHE :(!
    I was talking to my friend the other day and she was all like “Why did you even date him!?” and I seriously don’t know. I guess it was that spur of the moment thing and etc :\ He was pretty horrible at times but pretty sweet at others. But ugh, I think in the end, I didn’t want to leave him because I was ..afraid of being alone ?! I know …eurgh. It’s lucky we’re not in any of those relationships now !!! <3

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    Ling Tung Reply:

    @Melody, Yeah yeah yeah! Good thing I’ve found a special guy and you have found Vu!!! :)

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  3. Lilpil
    December 15, 2010 at 8:28 pm (3 years ago)

    Tell me all about it Girl.
    I’ve just had a 3 year relationship end on me and I’m still not sure what the hell happened.
    I feel so blind and gutted and confused and all that wasted blood, sweat, tears business emotions washing all over me.

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    Ling Tung Reply:

    @Lilpil, Oh no!!!!! What happened? Or maybe I shouldn’t ask… But hey girl, you deserve better!!!

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  4. 4
    December 15, 2010 at 11:51 am (3 years ago)

    AMEN TO ANONYMOUS CLOSE GF
    HE WAS AN A$$HOLE AND I DON’T KNOW WHY YOU DATING HIM EITHER!!

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    Ling Tung Reply:

    @4, Blind as a bat, that’s why!! LOL

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